I remember when I had just gained admission into the University of Ibadan, I was so excited. One of the reasons why I was happy was because I was finally going to be free from having to keep the home rules and regulations of my parents. I was going to be living in the hostel without my parents having to dictate to me when I had to return home, what to eat or what to wear etc. To me, I was now mature and free to make my own decisions without any interference. Am sure a lot of people can relate with this feeling. Young people often feel wise in their own thinking, they feel they are mature enough to start making what they think is the right decisions for themselves, to them being dependent on people for guidance is being in bondage.
Our society also believes that at the age of 18, young people are now mature enough to make their own decisions. Our society believes that maturity is being independent and not having to receive instructions from anyone. That maturity is about being free, independent etc. is a belief that has sent a lot of young people on a life-long spree of making erroneous decisions. A lot of people have been thrown into a living hell, which could have been avoided If only they had wise people to instruct them. I would like to share with us, what the scriptures define as maturity. The scriptures seem to express maturity has being consciously dependent, even though you don’t have to be.
“Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go” (John 21:18 NIV)
In this scripture, I see the definition of maturity. I see that maturity is conscious dependence, not independence. A mature man, even though he is grown, he chooses to submit to receive instructions to be led. Jesus demonstrated this all through his life, at Gethsemane even though He had come to the place where he could stand against God’s will, but instead He chose to submit.
“Saying Father, If you be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but yours be done” (Luke 22:42)
“Do you think I cannot call on my Father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than twelve legions of angels? But how then would the scriptures be fulfilled that say it must happen in this way?” (Matt. 26: 53 – 54 NIV)
After this He earned Himself the position of the firstborn among many brethren, He simply became the most mature Christian ever. When riches abound, maturity is being able to be told and led on how to spend it and not being proud and arrogant. When you are in a high and mighty position, maturity is being able to submit yourself to receive counsel from those whom the Lord has placed above you.
The measure of how mature you are, is a measure of how humble you are, and humility is power under control. When it seems you are in charge that is the time you need to surround yourself more with spiritual advisers, to lead you. That is the time to depend more on the holy-spirit to lead you in making decisions. To be mature is to be able to fully depend and rely on the teachings and instructions of Wisdom.
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